People often ask me what the most difficult part of the adoption process is - besides the obvious difficulty of waiting for your child. Funny that I had forgotten this.. but something happened today that also happened with our first adoption process. The dossier!! Not that the dossier is, in itself, a horrible nightmare. No - it's the PEOPLE that you are working with that make it a nightmare. Noo.. not the agency reps.. but the people who have to have their signature notarized!!
Seriously, if you were helping someone to bring home an orphaned child and build their family - would you NOT be willing to do anything that you can to help both the child and the family?? Ok obviously not everyone feels this way.
Last time it was the local police dept. I haven't contacted them yet, so could be the same this time (lets hope not - they delayed us almost 2 months last time).
Today it was my doctor's office. Not my doctor - if she was this rude I would not be a patient. Here is how it played out:
I arrive at the office and approach the desk. A somewhat bored-looking person is there to help me.
I tell her "We are adopting a child, and I have a document that my doctor needs to sign and have notarized for me".
She replies: "I'm sorry, we don't have a notary anymore"
I reply: "No problem, I'm sure we can figure something out. Could you please get this form and my message to her?" I hold out our document to her.
She replies: "I'M SORRY but we do not have a notary" and refuses to take the document from my hand.
I reply: "Ok, well I would be happy to make arrangements and meet her at my local bank which is ~2 blocks away, or anyplace that she finds convenient"
She replies: "I'm sorry, we don't have a notary so we can't help you".. and pushes the document back to me
Me: "No problem - just have her call me and work it out"
Her: "I don't know what you are going to do, but we can't help you" and again pushes the document to me
Me: "Well, we cannot adopt our child without this form notarized. Could you please just have her call me?"
Her: "I guess I can ask her, but she is out until Thursday and she can't help you"
Me: "I can wait - please have her call me"
Her: "Well, I will tell her, but we can't help you"
Me: "PLEASE have her simply call me"
She then took the form, put a post-it on it with my phone # - no note or words - and bid me farewell.